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Understanding God, Yourself, and Others through the Enneagram

Released January 24, 2023

What if there was more to the Enneagram than just understanding your personality type?

Discover how God speaks into your unique personality and life story to make the gospel come alive for you.

Enneagram coach and host of The EnneaCast podcast Jesse Eubanks invites readers to go deeper for true transformation. In How We Relate, Eubanks interprets the Enneagram through the gospel story to help readers grow in self-awareness, improve their relationships, and encounter Jesus.

"Jesus tells us that all of life is about loving and being loved in relationships. This is why understanding our style of relating is critical."

—Jesse Eubanks

author of How We Relate

Life is about relationships.

It's time to transform yours.

What if there was more to the Enneagram than just understanding your personality type? Enneagram coach and host of The EnneaCast podcast Jesse Eubanks invites readers to go deeper for true transformation. In How We Relate, Eubanks interprets the Enneagram through the gospel story to help readers grow in self-awareness, improve their relationships, and encounter Jesus.

Understand your personality and the personalities of others

Interpret the Enneagram through the gospel story

How We Relate shares how the Gospel story transforms our personal stories but it also does not stop with self identifying discoveries because scripture calls us to love our neighbors as ourselves. By understanding each relational style better, readers will unlock appreciation and sympathy for their brothers and sisters in Christ. Thus, resulting in better marriages, churches, and friendships.

How we relate to God IS how we relate to people. That is why it is so important for everyone to understand their relationship style.

illustrated hardcover

Print Length

256 pages

Author

Jesse Eubanks

Publication Date

January 24, 2023

Version

Hardcover

Through a series of unique and original illustrations, Eubanks provides an understanding of how the Gospel story transforms our personal stories, allowing readers to unlock the wholeness they long for in their relationship with themselves, others, and God.

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how we relate hardcover book
how we relate hardcover book
how we relate hardcover book
how we relate hardcover book

"This book is about connection—about helping you discover what you’ve never noticed in yourself or in others so that you can relate, commune, serve, and love."

—Russell Moore

Editor-in-chief, Christianity Today

Available on audiobook

No matter how busy life gets, audiobooks make it possible to listen, learn, and enjoy your favorite books anywhere. Listen to How We Relate, narrated by author Jesse Eubanks, for the full experience of his insight and passion for helping people experience more meaningful relationships with God, others, and yourself

Full of exclusive bonus content, insight, and commentary from Jesse not found anywhere else.

order now from where you listen

How We Relate Audibook cover

Listening Length

5 hours and 51 minutes

Narrator

Jesse Eubanks

Language

English

Version

Unabridged

Exclusive early access

Download the introduction + chapter one for free

Author Jesse Eubanks is giving you early access to the the introduction and chapter one of How We Relate, for free, as a way for you to read and experience the book before buying it yourself.

Click below to download your PDF sample of How We Relate.

how we relate standing hardcover
a note from the author

Jesse Eubanks

I wrote this book to help people have a more vibrant, life-giving relationship with God, other people and themselves. Whether you're dealing with confusion about why you act, feel and think the way you do or why the person next to you feels like a mystery you wish you could solve, I hope this book can help.

Using the tool of the enneagram, this book explores the way each of us are uniquely wired as people, how Jesus earns our trust and his invitation into a new way of doing relationships. I hope by the end you'll understand yourself better, the people around you better and have more awareness of the ways God loves you personally.

Jesse Eubanks author photo
Praise for How We Relate

How We Relate will help you understand your personality traits and why you’re inclined in the ways you are. But that’s not really what it’s about. This book is about connection—about helping you discover what you’ve never noticed in yourself or in others so that you can relate, commune, serve, and love. That is the kind of help I need, and you probably do too.

Russell Moore, editor-in-chief, Christianity Today

The Enneagram is a profoundly helpful tool for self-discovery. But what do we do after we’ve dissected our own personalities and then have to put on shoes, walk out the door, and interact with a diverse world? Jesse Eubanks helps us answer that question, and more, through this insightful resource.

A. J. Sherrill, Anglican priest and author of Being with God: The Absurdity, Necessity, and Neurology of Contemplative Prayer

Relationships matter, and they can bring us the greatest joys and cause us the deepest hurts. So becoming aware of how and why we relate to others in certain ways is extremely important for our well-being. Jesse Eubanks has given us a clear and practical guide on how to access the tool of the Enneagram within a Jesus-centered context to understand ourselves and to nurture strong and life-giving relationships. What a gift!

Marilyn Vancil, author of Self to Lose, Self to Find: Using the Enneagram to Uncover Your True, God-Gifted Self

How We Relate guides readers to Jesus and his radiant gospel as they discover their wirings through the Enneagram. With honesty, wit, and wisdom, Jesse Eubanks offers one of the most helpful resources on the subject to help Christians navigate how they relate.

Dr. Jamaal Williams, lead pastor, Sojourn Church Midtown, Louisville, Kentucky

“The purpose of life is relationships,” writes Jesse Eubanks in How We Relate. Through a thoughtful exploration of the Enneagram, the gospel, and his own story, Jesse masterfully interweaves these threads together to create a powerful chord of interconnectedness between an awareness of self and others. He helps readers pay attention to the things that matter—things of the soul and lives lived well, loving others and ourselves, from our true selves.

Paul Angone, author of Listen To Your Day: The Life-Changing Practice of Paying Attention

Knowing the Enneagram and how your personality is structured is a gift, which can truly be useful only after you’ve discovered how your Enneagram type helps and hurts you. Each of us is a gift to the world—one that can be beautiful only when we embrace all of who we are and who our friends, neighbors, coworkers, and families are. How We Relate is a practical and valuable guide to receiving what is beautiful and rejecting what is false about who God created you to be.

Sean Palmer, author of Speaking by the Numbers: Enneagram Wisdom for Pastors, Teachers, and Communicators and Forty Days on Being a Three

How We Relate moves the Enneagram beyond self-awareness and into the context of relationships. When used solely for self-reflection, the Enneagram falls short of its full value because we were created for connection. In these pages, Jesse Eubanks will help you discover that a truly meaningful life is found in your everyday relationships with God and others.

Beth and Jeff McCord, founders of Your Enneagram Coach

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Click preferred retailer below to pre-order. Releasing January 24, 2023

how we relate standing hardcover

How We Relate

Understanding God, Yourself, and Others through the Enneagram

An Enneagram book like no other, How We Relate helps you discover how God speaks into your unique personality and life story to make the gospel come alive for you.

WHAT IF THERE WAS MORE TO THE ENNEAGRAM THAN JUST UNDERSTANDING YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE?

Discover how God speaks into your unique personality and life story to make the gospel come alive for you.

Enneagram coach and host of The EnneaCast podcast Jesse Eubanks invites readers to go deeper for true transformation. In How We Relate, Eubanks interprets the Enneagram through the gospel story to help readers grow in self-awareness, improve their relationships, and encounter Jesus.

how we relate hardcover book
"JESUS TELLS US THAT ALL OF LIFE IS ABOUT LOVING AND BEING LOVED IN RELATIONSHIPS. THIS IS WHY UNDERSTANDING OUR STYLE OF RELATING IS CRITICAL."
—JESSE EUBANKS

author of How We Relate

Life is about relationships. It's time to transform yours.
UNDERSTAND YOUR PERSONALITY AND THE PERSONALITIES OF OTHERS

What if there was more to the Enneagram than just understanding your personality type?

How we relate to God IS how we relate to people. That is why it is so important for everyone to understand their relationship style.

INTERPRET THE ENNEAGRAM THROUGH THE GOSPEL STORY

How We Relate shares how the Gospel story transforms our personal stories but it also does not stop with self identifying discoveries because scripture calls us to love our neighbors as ourselves. By understanding each relational style better, readers will unlock appreciation and sympathy for their brothers and sisters in Christ. Thus, resulting in better marriages, churches, and friendships.

how we relate hardcover book
Exclusive early access
DOWNLOAD THE INTRODUCTION + CHAPTER ONE FOR FREE

Author Jesse Eubanks is giving you early access to the the introduction and chapter one of How We Relate, for free, as a way for you to read and experience the book before buying it yourself.

Click below to download your PDF sample of How We Relate.

Illustrated Hardcover
how we relate_hardcover

Through a series of unique and original illustrations, Eubanks provides an understanding of how the Gospel story transforms our personal stories, allowing readers to unlock the wholeness they long for in their relationship with themselves, others, and God.

Print Length

5 hours and 51 minutes

Author

Jesse Eubanks

Publication Date

English

Version

Hardcover

"This book is about connection—about helping you discover what you’ve never noticed in yourself or in others so that you can relate, commune, serve, and love."
—Russell Moore

editor-in-chief, Christianity Today

Available in audiobook
how we relate_audiobook cover_desktop

No matter how busy life gets, audiobooks make it possible to listen, learn, and enjoy your favorite books anywhere. Listen to How We Relate, narrated by author Jesse Eubanks, for the full experience of his insight and passion for helping people experience more meaningful relationships with God, others, and yourself

Full of exclusive bonus content, insight, and commentary from Jesse not found anywhere else.

Listening Length

5 hours and 51 minutes

Narrator

Jesse Eubanks

Language

English

Version

Unabridged

how we relate hardcover book
A note from the author
JESSE EUBANKS
Jesse Eubanks author photo

I wrote this book to help people have a more vibrant, life-giving relationship with God, other people and themselves. Whether you're dealing with confusion about why you act, feel and think the way you do or why the person next to you feels like a mystery you wish you could solve, I hope this book can help.

Using the tool of the enneagram, this book explores the way each of us are uniquely wired as people, how Jesus earns our trust and his invitation into a new way of doing relationships. I hope by the end you'll understand yourself better, the people around you better and have more awareness of the ways God loves you personally.

Endorsements & Reader Reviews

How We Relate will help you understand your personality traits and why you’re inclined in the ways you are. But that’s not really what it’s about. This book is about connection—about helping you discover what you’ve never noticed in yourself or in others so that you can relate, commune, serve, and love. That is the kind of help I need, and you probably do too.

Russell Moore, editor-in-chief, Christianity Today

The Enneagram is a profoundly helpful tool for self-discovery. But what do we do after we’ve dissected our own personalities and then have to put on shoes, walk out the door, and interact with a diverse world? Jesse Eubanks helps us answer that question, and more, through this insightful resource.

A. J. Sherrill, Anglican priest and author of Being with God: The Absurdity, Necessity, and Neurology of Contemplative Prayer

Relationships matter, and they can bring us the greatest joys and cause us the deepest hurts. So becoming aware of how and why we relate to others in certain ways is extremely important for our well-being. Jesse Eubanks has given us a clear and practical guide on how to access the tool of the Enneagram within a Jesus-centered context to understand ourselves and to nurture strong and life-giving relationships. What a gift!

Marilyn Vancil, author of Self to Lose, Self to Find: Using the Enneagram to Uncover Your True, God-Gifted Self

How We Relate guides readers to Jesus and his radiant gospel as they discover their wirings through the Enneagram. With honesty, wit, and wisdom, Jesse Eubanks offers one of the most helpful resources on the subject to help Christians navigate how they relate.

Dr. Jamaal Williams, lead pastor, Sojourn Church Midtown, Louisville, Kentucky

“The purpose of life is relationships,” writes Jesse Eubanks in How We Relate. Through a thoughtful exploration of the Enneagram, the gospel, and his own story, Jesse masterfully interweaves these threads together to create a powerful chord of interconnectedness between an awareness of self and others. He helps readers pay attention to the things that matter—things of the soul and lives lived well, loving others and ourselves, from our true selves.

Paul Angone, author of Listen To Your Day: The Life-Changing Practice of Paying Attention

Knowing the Enneagram and how your personality is structured is a gift, which can truly be useful only after you’ve discovered how your Enneagram type helps and hurts you. Each of us is a gift to the world—one that can be beautiful only when we embrace all of who we are and who our friends, neighbors, coworkers, and families are. How We Relate is a practical and valuable guide to receiving what is beautiful and rejecting what is false about who God created you to be.

Sean Palmer, author of Speaking by the Numbers: Enneagram Wisdom for Pastors, Teachers, and Communicators and Forty Days on Being a Three

How We Relate moves the Enneagram beyond self-awareness and into the context of relationships. When used solely for self-reflection, the Enneagram falls short of its full value because we were created for connection. In these pages, Jesse Eubanks will help you discover that a truly meaningful life is found in your everyday relationships with God and others.

Beth and Jeff McCord, founders of Your Enneagram Coach

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Released January 24, 2023